Food for Thought...Kinda Like Chocolate Syrup!!

The pill. Some might argue it womankind's best invention! No worries about condoms breaking, someone "forgetting" to bring one (or a handful), or even being judged for being the kind of girl who carries Magnums around in her purse. You are in charge of your reproductive system. So, what happens when someone hijacks your right to reproductive autonomy? Let us know what you think!

p.s. The title of this post is a link to a pretty interesting article. I recommend you read it!

Asexuality & Virginity: Not Synonymous

Why are virgin’s left out of sexual discussions? In this generation of raunchy culture where women feel liberated by being openly sexual and promiscuous without shame, how is a twenty something year old virgin supposed to feel, especially when all his/her friends are having sex often and can’t seem to live without it? Like an outcast. Well, that depends on their situation. If the person claims that they are saving their virginity for that one “special” person or waiting to get married, then I don’t think they’ll necessarily feel so bad about being a virgin, they might even be proud (even if they think their missing out in the meantime). If they have religious beliefs concerning pre-marital sex, then they’ll probably be a little judgmental about their friends’ sexual behavior and think they’re being immoral. If they are choosing to abstain from sex until they’re finished with school or getting their career established, then they might not feel so horrible about being an “old” virgin either. However, all of this does not address the frustration a virgin might feel when all their friends and family had sex ages ago and doesn’t want to talk to them about sex because they don’t want to hurt their “virgin ears”. In fact this may make the virgin feel really left out and abnormal.
To make this dilemma even more problematic and stigmatizing, there are even studies that conclude that losing your virginity later on, around the ages of twenty one to twenty three, can cause sexual health problems later on according to research done at Columbia University and the New York State Psychiatric Institute's HIV Center for Clinical and Behavioral Studies. (For more information go to abcnews.com and enter “virginity” in the search bar) So should a virgin feel proud or ashamed of their sexual purity in contemporary American society? If the virgin has to deal with peers and family members who render them asexual then they will more than likely feel ashamed, but if the virgin is socially engaged as a sexual being that has not yet experienced sexual intercourse, then they will probably feel more secure with their sexuality. The bottom line is this: Virgins are not asexual and should not be excluded from sexual discussions just because they are virgins. They have as much, if not more, sexual desire than a sexually active person. So feel free to talk to a virgin about sex because they will understand, for the most part anyway.

Forbidden Sex. . .

Rape me! You know you wanna. Forced sex is considered hot and erotic. Americans are so fascinated with forbidden sex. The list of forbidden sex includes rape, sex with minors/students, sex with your superiors (instructors, coaches, bosses), bondage, etc. Americans are closet freaks, but few will admit it to people out loud. What stops people from revealing what turns them on? I mean how are people going to reach sexual fulfillment if they do no explore their turn ons and turn offs. The lack of fulfillment causes people to accept sub-par sex. But then what about the people that already know what they like and what they want???? Hmm interestingly enough that is scarier than not knowing what you want. Because now more pressure is placed on you. Several questions cross your mind such as "she wants me to do what?" and "he wants me to do that where!?!" These questions start to force people into adventurous act they would have never heard of let alone have done. So what would you do to please your mate? I know this is a redundant question but seriously if you significant other told you that he or she wanted you to wear costumes or handcuffs? Would you do it? Or what if your sexual partner said they wanted to have sex outside? How far would you go to satisfy your mate?

-Click the title link to check out the top ten female fantasies from America's Mental Health Channel. Interesting.