Monday, November 9, 2009

Whores and Virgins going Head to Head!!!

Virgin or whore, those are the only two categories for women in America. Once a woman admits to having more than 2 sexual partners she is deemed a whore and several other names. I find this very strange especially since some men while dating avoid virgins like the plague but when these same men hear wedding bells they begin searching for a virgin to marry. Why it is that once an American woman reveals her sexual understanding to an American man all hell breaks loose? After reading an article that revealed that a new generation of young women in England has more sexual experience and partners than men, I thought about how traditional sexual ideals governs America. (This is the article if anyone is interested : http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/3685314/Young-women-have-more-sexual-partners-than-men.html) Sadly these ideals do not just influence a preference for men they also control the lives and thoughts of women too. Women are afraid to be seen as someone with sexual knowledge because those with that type of experience are the whores that give their bodies away freely. These traditional views of sex have severely confined American women to the Elizabethan age when clearly we are in the 21st century. Ironically the Elizabethan age connects directly to England but it is America that holds on so strongly to this era’s ideals about women’s sex lives or the lack there of.
I believe that a woman should be able to have as many or more sex partners than a man so that she knows what pleases her in bed. A woman should be able to tell her partner what to do to please her just as a man can guide a woman to pleasing him. This double standard towards sex is mind boggling. Another thing that boggles my mind is that a man can have sex with as many women as he wants and he is just perfecting his technique. Plus this same guy is considered a hot item by women and a celebrated hero by men. Women on the other hand are seen as someone carrying an STD or just too easy for comfort. Even more surprising a woman cannot talk about her sex life to other women for fear of being judged too harshly. The word promiscuous alludes to a prostitute or a woman of the night so there is no good adjective for a woman with sexual experience. Although a man with sexual experience relates his knowledge to “baseball” since each time he gets a woman in his bed, he “scores a home run.”
What does everyone else think? Should Americans end this sexual double standard? Will the United States ever become “liberal” and allow women to be as sexual active as men? What is wrong with women have multiple sex partners? Do you think that women should have sex lives? Why or why not? When can women relate their sexual experience to a game just as men do? Ladies is it fair to consider your knowledge as a disadvantage? Are there any public advantages in women having sexual experience? Who do you prefer in your bed, the virgin or the whore? Is it possible to be both or something in between the two labels?

6 comments:

  1. I agree, I feel women should be able to have as many partners as they see fit. As long as it is safe sex who cares who you're sleeping with. I think as the younger generations in America grow it is becoming more social acceptable for women to have and enjoy a passionate sex life with whom they choose. I also feel it is more than two categories for women, not all of which, are derragatory towards women. Also, I would prefer not to engage in sexual acts with a woman who does not have the sufficient experience for the task at hand.

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  2. Sir can you tell us the other categories? I'm very interested in learning them since they are not derogatory towards women.

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  3. Although I agree that women shouldn't be called whores for having sex lives outside of marriage, I don't think it's a good thing for them to adopt the masculine attitude towards sex because that makes sex meaningless and there is a detachment that men cannot recuperate in their sexuality because they learn not to associate pleasure with their emotions. Women are better than that. Sex is not some animalistic instinct. It has a purpose beyond just the physical (bonding, procreation) and that should not be lost in our current understaning of sexuality.

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  4. So Alleycat, are you saying it is up to woman to keep sex meaningful?? No offense, but I completely disagree. Sex is sex! Don't get me wrong, loving making with the right person, with all the romance involved is a beautiful experience as well but quite frankly, sex has lost all it's secrecy anyway. With the creation of pornography and brothels, sex begin to SELL as opposed to being held on a pedestal. I applaud women who are able to find that disconnect between love making and sex. I have yet to quite master it because it is more of a mental thing than physical thing. Women always associate intimacy with sex while men associate intimacy with expressing emotion. It's just the way it is...

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  5. Personally I believe that once a person develops an emotional attachment to a person or persons then sex might have some type of meaning. But other than that I think men and women should disconnect sex from intimacy because the sex just might be mind blowing amazing and people will take that as a sign of intimacy and connection. Then they will marry that person and of course a few years or months later they are divorced because they mistook meanless sex for something more.

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  6. Anonymous: I'm not saying it's up to women to make sex more meaningful, I just don't think we should stoop to the prescribed "masculine" viewpoint of sex and go at it like animals because we're "women" and we're "supposed" to. I am moderate on the issue. I am moreso against rampant promiscuity than fulfilling your sexual desires in a discretional manner.

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